Top 10 Worst Speed Dating Questions You Should Never Ask To A Girl
The key to speed dating is asking the correct questions. You do not want to be barking at the wrong tree because you only have 5 minutes. A bad start is already a bad ending.
Here are some of the worst speed dating questions that you should never ask your date:
1. Where do you live?
Do not start the date by being an interviewer. Interview questions reveal only facts. It’s like you’re letting her fill out her resume.
2. Where do you work?
It’s really the same as “where do you live?” only this time, you are asking for another address. Again, this is an interview question and doesn’t help you know more about her personality.
3. How old are you?
This is one insensitive question to ask, especially to women. The rule is to never ask for a girl’s age unless she asks you first.
4. How much do you weigh?
Along with age, weight is another sensitive topic for women. Again, the answer you’ll get would be a number and won’t reveal that much about your date’s personality.
5. Are you still a virgin?
Sex-related questions are a no-no on a first date. What more in speed dating? These questions are too personal to ask, even to your friends. What more to a stranger?
6. Have you ever been involved in casual sex?
This is another sex-related question. Don’t be a creep and sound like a maniac or something. To cut a long story short, sex-related questions are inappropriate during speed dating.
7. When was your last relationship?
Speed dating, or dating in general, is all about meeting new people, especially potential partners. In other words, it’s about the present and the future—not about the past.
8. Why did you break up with your boyfriend?
Now you’re really digging up her past, which is not of relevance to you or to her right now. Remember, it’s none of your business. Sometimes, the past still hurts, and bringing back a hurt will just spoil the festive mood during speed dating.
9. Religious or Sects?
This is just a sample question. The point is, never bring up religion. You might just end up debating on religious issues like contraceptives, abortion, and the like.
10. To Whom Did You Vote For?
Never assume that she is a Democrat. She might not be one. Like religion, bringing up politics is a way to establish a common ground. That is if you share the same views. If not, then you better keep your mouth shut about religion.
There are a lot of other interview questions that are not as bad but only generate a YES or NO answer. Speed dating doesn’t mean you’re doing an interview. You don’t exchange resumes in the first place.
Closed-ended questions do little to spark up conversations. You need to create attraction and get to know her better. Speed dating questions should cater to emotions and feelings.
Speed dating usually runs for 5 minutes, and to start the ball rolling, you must go directly to conversation starters that will leave a good impression and help you find common ground. Here are some of the best questions to get you started:
What do you like to do in your spare time?
Do you have any pets?
Do you like to travel?
What’s the best place you’ve traveled to?
There are many more questions that can start off a good conversation. Just remember not to turn her off by asking too many personal questions.
Once you’ve found some common ground and you feel a little chemistry, try these questions:
What is your dream job?
What is one thing about yourself that you would want me to know?
What is the last good movie that you saw?
Suppose you had a day to spend with a famous person, dead or alive. Who would he be?
What would you do if you won the lottery?
If you had to be someone else for a day, who would you want to be and why?
What is the craziest thing that you have done?
If you were to do a movie, who would you want to be your leading man?
If you were given a free plane ticket, what destination would you choose?
If a genie would give you three wishes, what would they be?
Think of more creative questions to ask. It will be more fun.
The most important thing to do during speed dating is to make sure you’re having fun and enjoying the conversation.
Remember that your goal is to make a good impression and know if you have some things in common that can move you both ahead. It’s not about making home runs.